Delivery: Bonjour, Baby!

The Big Day: Your Baby’s Arrival

So, the moment you’ve been dreaming of is here – “delivery day!” Whether you’re feeling excited, nervous, or a mix of both (totally normal, ma belle!), it’s time to meet your little one. You’ve spent nine months preparing, but nothing can quite compare to the real thing. From those first little twinges to full-blown contractions, your body is doing its incredible work – bringing life into the world.

Whether you’re opting for a natural birth, C-section, or epidural, it’s important to trust your instincts and stay calm. You’ve got this, mama! Remember, each birth is as unique as your baby, and there’s no “right” way to do it. Breathe deeply, visualize holding your bébé, and rely on the support of your birthing team. A few affirmations whispered to yourself might help: I am strong, I am ready.

As soon as you lay eyes on your baby, all the effort, sweat, and tears will be worth it. That first skin-to-skin moment? “Pure magic!” It’s the start of your next adventure, ma chérie – welcome to motherhood!

Your Delivery Bag (Have It Ready At Week 36)

uuPacking your maternity delivery bag is one of the final steps in preparing for your baby’s arrival, and trust me, it’s worth doing it right. Having all the essentials on hand can make your labour and hospital stay much smoother. I’ve learned from experience (and a few mistakes) what works best, and I’m here to share my ultimate checklist. Remember, this isn’t just about functionality—it’s about comfort and a little bit of pampering during one of life’s most intense yet magical moments. Here’s everything you’ll need for both yourself and your baby.

For Baby

  1. 3 hypoallergenic cotton long-sleeve bodysuits (size 53 cm) – Newborn sizes are usually too small, and after washing, they tend to shrink. It’s better if they’re a little loose—it’ll fit better and last longer.
  2. 2 warm overalls with closed feet – If your baby is a winter baby like two of mine, I can’t recommend organic wool overalls enough. They’re simply the best for keeping your newborn warm and cozy.
  3. 2 newborn hats – Temperature regulation is key for newborns since they can’t regulate it themselves for the first few months. The rule is: dress them as you would yourself, plus an extra layer.
  4. A soft baby blanket – Keeps your little one warm and secure.
  5. Baby carrier for a car or stroller – A must-have for bringing your baby home safely.
  6. 4-6 newborn diapers – Look for ones with a small wave in front to protect the sensitive umbilical cord area. Size 1 works for most full-term babies, but if your baby is smaller, go for the newborn size.
  7. 1-2 soft hydrofiele cloths – These are perfect for comforting your baby or wiping small messes.
  8. A soft toy (doudou) – Here’s a little trick: keep the baby’s clothes, blanket, and soft toy in your bed for the last couple of days before the birth. This will give them your scent, helping your baby feel safe and comforted when you bring them home.
  9. A swaddle – Ideal if you’re transporting your baby in a stroller (not recommended for car seats). Swaddling offers reassurance and mimics the snug, warm environment of the womb, which can help soothe your newborn.

For Mama

  1. 1 soft, long cotton gown with front opening – You might not care much about appearances during labour, but this will help you avoid awkward butt-naked moments and keep a little dignity intact.
  2. 1 pair of warm socks – After delivery, an adrenaline rush can make you shiver. Warm socks will help.
  3. Energy-boosting snacks – Pack energy bars, dark chocolate, dried fruits, and nuts. You won’t feel like eating much, but you’ll need all the strength you can get.
  4. Amino acid drink – The kind we use before workouts can be a game-changer during labour for an energy boost.
  5. 2 sets of comfortable clothes for after delivery – Go for something loose and breathable.
  6. 2-3 pairs of black cotton panties – Comfortable, practical, and ideal for postpartum needs.
  7. 8-10 heavy-duty after-delivery pads – Let’s be honest, the first hours and days won’t be glamorous. These are a must.
  8. Your favorite hypoallergenic shower gel and shampoo – Your skin might be extra sensitive, so go gentle.
  9. Hydrating cream and lip balm – Labor can dry out your lips, so keep them moisturized.
  10. Linolin cream and hydrogel pads – In case your nipples feel sore or if you have to stay an extra night in the hospital.
  11. Phone charger, headphones, or a book – For some entertainment or distraction during quieter moments.
  12. No lotion or perfume – Your baby needs to bond with your natural scent for feeding and recognition.

 

Top 3 Tips for the First Hour After Giving Birth

Delayed Cord Clamping: A Vital Boost for Your Baby

Delayed cord clamping (DCC) means waiting a few minutes before clamping the umbilical cord, allowing up to 30% more blood to transfer from the placenta. This boost supports better oxygen and nutrient supply, essential for your baby’s first breaths, and facilitates the transfer of iron and stem cells to aid growth, tissue repair, and immune health. DCC is recommended by World Health Organisation. It is recommend waiting until the cord stops pulsating or turns white—often 3-5 minutes. For premature or Cesarean births, DCC remains beneficial and achievable with guidance from your medical team.

Skin-to-Skin Contact

Right after birth, hold your baby against your bare chest for skin-to-skin contact. This helps regulate your baby’s temperature, heart rate, and breathing. It’s also a beautiful bonding moment, boosting oxytocin (the love hormone) for both of you. Plus, it can help kick-start breastfeeding

Initiate Breastfeeding

If you’re planning to breastfeed, try to latch your baby within the first hour. Newborns often show natural signs of readiness to feed, like turning towards your breast.  However, don’t stress if it takes time for your breasts to start producing milk. The truth is that healthy newborns can go for 24 hours without actual food, provided there are no medical concerns. A newborn’s stomach is only about the size of a cherry, requiring just a few milliliters of milk at first.

In these early hours, your breasts produce colostrum – a golden-colored first milk that’s truly like liquid gold for your baby. This special milk helps establish your baby’s digestive system and immune system. So if you intend to breastfeed but don’t succeed in the first hour, don’t rush to formula. With patience and the loving support of a doula or lactation specialist, you will get there. Remember, we are naturally designed to feed our babies – the key is mastering the right latch and you’ve got this, mama!

The Grande Finale

Fabulous 35+ Birth Plans: Tailoring Your Delivery Experience

Usually, birth plans consist of three main parts: pre-delivery, delivery, and post-delivery. This document is your chance to outline your preferences and needs for labour and postpartum care. From noting allergies to detailing your wishes for pain management during labour, everything can be tailored to make you feel as comfortable and in control as possible. It’s also an opportunity to specify your preferences, such as your chosen delivery positions, whether you’d like delayed umbilical cord cutting, and even your decision about washing your baby after birth.

Did you know that choosing not to wash your baby right after delivery helps preserve the vernix caseosa? This natural coating is rich in nutrients your baby received throughout pregnancy and can protect their delicate skin during the first 1-2 days after birth. And when it comes to delivery positions, many women overlook how critical this decision can be. Remember, Mother Nature designed us to work with gravity—so use it to your advantage. Whether you prefer squatting, kneeling, or a birthing stool, these positions can enhance your experience and promote a smoother delivery.

Pain management

Consult, read, ask, and educate yourself about the pain relief options during labour. Understanding the pros and cons of pain management techniques will help you make an informed decision. Discuss your preferences with your care team and ensure the trusted person accompanying you is committed to defending your wishes when the time comes. Why is this important? Because during the toughest moments of labour (like at 9-10 cm dilation), it can be hard to make clear decisions. Preparing in advance helps you stick to what’s right for you.

Good to know: epidural anesthesia can provide significant relief and allow you to conserve energy for the critical phase of pushing. However, it is usually discontinued at the final stage of dilation and during pushing—the most painful phases of labour. If you make it through without an epidural, you are, without a doubt, a goddess. Just keep in mind that while epidurals can be lifesaving for some, they do carry potential side effects for both mum and baby, so weigh your options carefully.

C-Section Savvy: What Every 35+ Mum-to-Be Should Know

Statistics show that older mothers may have a higher chance of a Caesarean birth due to factors like increased likelihood of medical conditions, specific pregnancy complications, and more frequent monitoring in later stages. But while the term “C-section” might sound intimidating, it’s just one of many ways to safely welcome your baby, and knowing more can help you feel prepared and in control.

There are also many myths around C-sections for older mothers that deserve clearing up! For example, some worry that recovery will be much harder at 35 or 40+; however, with the right care and support, many older mums heal well. Another common misconception is that a C-section limits future birth choices, but with a conversation about VBAC (vaginal birth after Caesarean), future deliveries can still align with your preferences and health.

Post-surgery, older mums may notice that rest and recovery play an even bigger role, as our bodies need a bit more TLC to bounce back. Prioritize gentle movement as advised by your doctor, and take short, frequent walks to aid circulation and boost energy. Building a support network—be it family, friends, or postpartum resources—can make a huge difference, giving you time to rest, connect with your baby, and focus on healing at your own pace.

Your Birth Team: Choosing the Right Support for Your Delivery

For mums over 40, the idea of a natural birth might seem like a big goal, but rest assured—it’s absolutely possible, and many women have successfully done it! Celebrities like Halle Berry, who gave birth naturally at 47, and Julianne Moore, who welcomed her baby at 41, prove that age doesn’t define our capacity for childbirth. These success stories are inspiring examples that with preparation, support, and the right mindset, a natural birth can be a joyful and achievable experience.

If you’re planning for a natural birth, there are several ways to prepare your body for labour. First, stay active with gentle exercises like prenatal yoga or walking, which can build stamina and flexibility for labour. Second, prioritize a balanced diet rich in leafy greens, lean proteins, and healthy fats to nourish your body and support fetal growth. Third, practice regular pelvic floor exercises to strengthen muscles that play a crucial role in labour and delivery, helping with both endurance and recovery.

Pain management is also a key part of a successful natural birth, especially for those in their 40s. Breathing techniques, like slow, deep belly breaths or rhythmic counting, help maintain focus and keep pain manageable. Water therapy, such as a warm bath or shower during early labour, can relieve muscle tension and reduce discomfort. Finally, guided imagery—visualizing calming places or positive birth outcomes—can reduce stress, encouraging the release of endorphins that naturally alleviate pain. With the right preparation, support, and belief in your body’s strength, a natural birth in your 40s is not only possible but can be deeply empowering.